Nowadays we often see videos on Youtube or TikTok that show how to become and be “THAT GIRL”, and how this lifestyle can improve us.
While it is true that becoming that girl is everyone’s dream, it must also be said that each of us is different and the definition of that girl can also have a different meaning for each of us.
But before that, let’s see what it means to be “THAT GIRL” and how to become one.
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What does being “THAT GIRL” mean
Essentially becoming “THAT GIRL” means being an organized, productive person who gives importance to their physical and mental well-being but it also means knowing how to set the right priorities, plan and achieve their goals.
It means living your best life and becoming the happiest person, having the right diet, exercising, getting up early, and completing your to-do list.
Personally for me, becoming “THAT GIRL” means becoming the best version of myself, without having to change myself or how I live.
This means that to become “THAT GIRL”, we don’t need to do what is shown to us on social media, but we must try to build better habits that can bring positivity into our lives and get rid of the bad habits that hold us back from reaching our potential.
How to become “THAT GIRL”
Before going to read what are the habits that “THAT GIRL” practices, let’s see which steps you need to go through to actually become one.
1) Ensure that the image of “THAT GIRL” you want to become is something realistic for you.
Before jumping into a different lifestyle with new habits and new ambitions, it’s important to ask yourself if becoming “THAT GIRL” is an achievable and feasible thing for you.
With this, I don’t mean that becoming a “THAT GIRL” isn’t for everyone, but that for each of us, it represents something different.
If for one it means getting up early at 3 in the morning, for another it means getting up even a little later but still getting organized for the day.
Ask yourself what kind of “THAT GIRL” you would like to become and what habits you would like to change or add to your routine.
The important thing is that everything is feasible according to your lifestyle and that it can bring about positive changes in your life.
2) Plan how you are going to become “THAT GIRL”
Even if it seems doable, changing your lifestyle without a plan becomes difficult and demotivating after a while.
If you decide to become “THAT GIRL” you must also plan on how to become one.
This includes new habits you would like to build, bad habits to break, and habits to change, as well as goals you set for yourself and would like to achieve.
You need to know how build new routines and how to stick to them, and above all, you should ask yourself how do you see yourself in a couple of years.
All of this plays a very important role because it’s the basis for building yourself as the best version of yourself and knowing which direction to go to become the person you want.
3) Slowly introduce good and positive habits into your routine
This is definitely one of the things that we need to do but that most of us don’t do.
Quickly adding a new habit into our routine without giving it time to get used to it and pretending to stick to it is harmful and we give up after a couple of days, making us think that we are not good at a certain thing.
The secret to changing habits or starting new ones is their slow introduction into our routine.
For example, if you are used to waking up at 9 am and you would like to wake up at 5 am, don’t set your alarm for 5 am, because I’m sure you won’t last long.
Instead, try to set your alarm for 8:30 am, and after a week switch to 8 am, and so on, until you reach your goal.
This way, you will give your body and mind time to get used to it and you will be more inclined to stick to that habit, making it part of your routine.
4) Don’t be hard on yourself and practice self-love
One of the things we often forget is to be good and patient with ourselves when we are in the process of changing habits or creating new ones.
Don’t be hard on yourself and love yourself for who you are and appreciate your efforts.
Changing your lifestyle takes patience and commitment, and there will definitely be times when you want to quit or just can’t stick to the plan.
I want to let you know that this is all ok and that it’s perfectly normal to take breaks or have moments where you don’t want to do anything.
For this you don’t have to worry, pick up where you left off, and continue on your path, always being kind to yourself and practicing self-love.
5) Track your progress
If you are in the process of becoming “THAT GIRL”, then one of the fundamental things that you absolutely must not miss is to always track your progress.
Only by tracking your progress, you can know if you are improving and moving towards your goal or if you have remained at the same point.
This also helps you to modify your plan and adapt it according to your needs or to revise and remove or add what is best for your lifestyle.
For example, if you’ve set a goal to exercise 4 times a week, and at the end of the month you see that you haven’t been able to stick to the plan, you can identify the problem and then reduce your exercise times to fit it into your routine.
6) Reward yourself after small improvements
This is definitely one of the most important things to do when you’ve reached your goal.
Many don’t do it or think it’s pointless to reward yourself for achieving a goal, but this is wrong.
I believe that every time you reach a goal, you should reward yourself for the hard work you put in and remind yourself that you are capable of doing anything you set your mind to.
And by rewarding yourself, you support your self-esteem, increase your motivation and you’ll be ready to face a new path.
You could do it, simply by:
- watching one/two episodes of your favorite show
- giving yourself a little trip
- playing your favorite console
- taking you out to breakfast
- making yourself a super yummy dessert
- turning off all screens for an hour and enjoying the peace
- hosting a game night with friends
Whatever it is, always reward yourself for small improvements.
7) Have fun during the process of becoming “THAT GIRL”
Last but not least, I want you not to do things that you don’t like or that don’t fit into your lifestyle.
As I have already said above, the definition of “THAT GIRL” is different for each of us, and therefore if for one it means getting up early, for another it means starting the day slowly, staying in bed, and dedicating time to your thoughts.
So, identify your type of “THAT GIRL” and above all don’t be hard on yourself. Indeed, during the process of becoming a “THAT GIRL”, you should be at peace with yourself and above all have fun!
If you make this process difficult, it is very likely that you will give up, but if you enjoy and like something, the path to improving yourself will be more pleasant and doable.
22 Habits to develop to become “THAT GIRL”
Now that we’ve covered what it’s like to become a “THAT GIRL” and how to become one, let’s look at what habits you should start developing to help you in this process.
Below you will find 22 habits to become “THAT GIRL” to introduce into your routine.
These are just general tips, but you can decide if they are for you or if you prefer to tweak them a bit.
Let’s begin!
1) Eat healthily
To become the best version of ourselves, it’s important to also start eating healthier
Nutrition plays a very important role in our health, and if we eat poorly, it is also easier to get sick.
Try to prefer fresh and healthy foods, start introducing fruit and vegetables, and cook at home instead of buying packaged foods.
But don’t forget about your chocolate dessert or your favorite dessert.
Eating everything is important, and depriving yourself of a certain food because it is considered unhealthy is not good for you.
Just have a balance and prefer foods that are good for your body’s health.
2) Make time for self-improvement
A “THAT GIRL” is an ambitious person who puts her physical and mental well-being first.
But she is also a person who thinks about improving herself and who therefore reserves time to devote to self-improvement activities.
Self-improvement includes all those activities that help you become the best version of yourself and that you achieve thanks to your own efforts.
So dedicate your time to self-improvement, and if you don’t know where to start, you can take a look at these simple monthly goal ideas you can take inspiration from.
3) Make time for yourself
One of the things you should start doing is also to dedicate time to yourself.
In a world like today, where we are busier than ever, dedicating time to yourself has become difficult.
But I want you that even if you have a busy schedule, you make time for yourself and think about yourself more than you were doing before.
Organize your day and carve out at least an hour of time to do things you like, dedicate your time to hobbies, and practice meditation and self-care to be a healthy and happy person.
4) Journal every day
I’m sure in all the “THAT GIRL” videos you’ve seen, there is the habit of writing in a journal.
Writing in a journal brings many benefits to mental health because throwing everything on paper helps you free yourself from the thoughts that oppress you and strengthens the positive ones.
You can take the time to know how you feel, and how your days went, it helps you achieve your goals, inspires creativity and also has the power to boost your self-confidence.
If you are just starting out, you can start by simply using a planner and writing down your emotions, what you have in store for the day, and your goals.
If you find it difficult to write freely, you can opt for journal prompts, which are very useful for self-reflection.
5) Indulge in self-care
One of the things that are not lacking in the list of a “THAT GIRL”, and are considered inevitable, is the habit of practicing self-care activities.
Self-care is very important, not only because it makes you feel good, but also because it’s the only way to take care of yourself, of your person, and to have good physical and mental health.
Self-care isn’t just for people who have time or are wealthy, this is just a misconception.
All of us can and should practice self-care for our physical and mental integrity. So if you want to become a “THAT GIRL”, get into the habit of practicing self-care.
If you don’t have enough time, here are some quick 5-minute self-care activities you can do.
If you want to know how to recharge for the week, here you can find some self-care Sunday ideas for the perfect recharge to help you face a new and successful week.
6) Drink plenty of water
How would you like to become “THAT GIRL” if drinking water is not part of your habit?
Hydration is essential for our bodies, and drinking water shouldn’t be an option.
If you want to become a “THAT GIRL” then it’s important that you drink plain water to stay hydrated and healthy.
The recommended dose is at least 2 liters, but if you’re not used to drinking a lot of water or you forget it, you can set a reminder every couple of hours, and keep a bottle close at hand.
It may be difficult at first, but getting into the habit of drinking water improves your life, and makes you beautiful and healthy.
7) Wear what makes you feel good
Being a “THAT GIRL” also means being confident and comfortable wearing what you love.
If there’s a dress that makes you feel good or a dress that makes you feel beautiful, wear it.
I know that many times there is the fear of being judged or you are afraid of making a bad impression, but first, people’s opinions shouldn’t worry you and it shouldn’t interest you, and second, you have to wear only what makes you feel good and not something that doesn’t fit your style.
For example, if you’re not used to wearing heels, then don’t wear them.
If, on the other hand, you would like to try something new in your clothing, then go for it! You are unique and special in your way of being, and with any outfit, I’m sure you will be perfect!
8) Embrace a positive attitude
A positive attitude just adds something positive to your life.
Having a positive attitude helps you maintain motivation even in the most difficult moments of life, and overcome these moments with more confidence.
Furthermore, seeing the positive side of everything allows you to live life more serenely and to face it without always falling into sadness and despair.
A positive attitude certainly does not make all problems disappear. However, these will seem easier to manage.
So for every difficulty you encounter, try to see what you can learn from it, and don’t focus only on the negative things.
9) Get life organized
Another of the habits to practice to become a “THAT GIRL”, is to get organized and organize your life.
By this I mean that the “THAT GIRL” knows how to plan and organize herself to always keep up with her various commitments, she doesn’t leave things behind for later and she organizes her time and things to get things done.
Getting organized has many benefits, because it improves your productivity, and performance, reduces stress, and faces each day with more clarity and calm.
Below I have written 13 things to do at the start of a new month to get organized and productive.
10) Exercise and move your body every day
Practicing movement every day and working out during the week is one of the habits of “THAT GIRLS” that should never be missing.
This is because moving even just with a walk or practicing physical activity brings benefits to our body and our mind.
The “THAT GIRL” works out often and they do it in the morning because they have the advantage of still being full of energy and once they are done, they have more time in the afternoon to devote themselves to something else.
But as we have already said, each of us has different times and preferences, so if you want to work out in the afternoon or evening, that’s fine!
Just find time to practice some movement, such as stretching, a 20-minute workout, or a half-hour walk, and don’t forget that the important thing is to feel good about yourself.
11) Practice positive affirmations
There are moments in life when we feel down, we doubt ourselves, we don’t feel like doing anything or we feel lost.
It’s happened to everyone and it will surely happen again because life is unpredictable and unfortunately it’s not all rosy.
But there are some things that can help us overcome these moments and give a boost to our confidence, to believe in ourselves, to kick away the laziness and go back to being super productive, motivated to reach our goals, and eliminate limiting beliefs what we say to ourselves.
You can start practicing them too, early in the morning or at night before going to sleep, as well as during the afternoon.
When you’re feeling down, say positive affirmations out loud and believe in yourself.
12) Invest in learning
A “THAT GIRL” aims to learn new things and be a cultured person.
She loves investing in learning because she knows that learning doesn’t stop at an age and it’s never too late to jump into something new.
Have you ever had the desire and motivation to learn a certain thing? If so, you don’t have to back down!
Learn new things, for yourself and for your future.
By investing in learning, you have the opportunity to acculturate yourself, learn new things, and improve your life.
For example, if you want to quit your 9-5 job, then the first step would be to learn how to start a blog or an online store.
If you love piano, then there is no other way than to attend a piano class and learn this wonderful instrument.
Learn as much as you can, it has no disadvantages!
13) Focus on your morning routine
It is said that the morning is one of the best times to focus on yourself and work on your goals.
I think that each of us has the perfect moment of the day when we are most motivated, but the morning is truly the best time to dedicate ourselves to self-care activities, journaling, practicing affirmations that push us through the day, and praying or meditating.
Creating a morning routine is the perfect way to get ahead of your schedule, get things done to have more time in the day, work on your goals, and practice self-care.
So I suggest you take the time to create a morning routine that allows you to have time for yourself, practice a light workout, get organized, and get into productivity mode to get things done early in the morning.
At first, it may be difficult to stick to a routine, but with determination and time, everything will become easier and more natural.
14) Wake up early
This is definitely one of the things that “THAT GIRL” practices and which is associated with becoming a “THAT GIRL”.
Getting up early in the morning has many benefits and many people have reaped huge benefits over waking up late and rushing to work.
Waking up early in the morning allows you to have more time to dedicate to your projects and commitments, organize yourself, and prioritize important things, it helps you create a consistent sleep schedule, and above all, you will have the right mood to face the day with more energy and happiness.
If you want to start waking up early but don’t know where to start, you can implement these tips on how to become a morning person and love it.
15) Surround yourself with motivation
What is one of the many habits that a “THAT GIRL” practices to stay that way?
The secret to staying focused and succeeding in your goals is to always be motivated. But staying motivated can be difficult if you don’t have someone or something to motivate you.
It is therefore important that you surround yourself with people and things that motivate you and push you forward to reach your goals.
16) Pamper yourself
Even if you want to become a “THAT GIRL” and you’re busy achieving your dream and working on your goals, don’t forget to take breaks to pamper yourself.
Not taking time out to take care of yourself only affects your mental and physical health and eventually, you end up having burnout and giving up everything.
Make some time to pamper yourself!
You can do it with a nice warm bath, drinking a cup of hot chocolate in front of your favorite tv series, listening to relaxing music or reading a book.
Do everything but have some time for yourself and unplug yourself from the outside world.
17) Choose a good diet
When you set out to become a “THAT GIRL” you also set out to become the best version of yourself.
This means improving both mentally but also aiming for a healthy and strong body.
A healthy diet is the number 1 factor affecting the health of our body.
There is a saying that says: “We are what we eat”. And I find it so great and correct.
This means that if we eat badly, our body will also feel bad, but if we feed it well, our body will remain strong and active.
Prefer fruits and vegetables, reduce fried foods and sweets, but don’t eliminate them.
Introduce fruit, drink lots of water, and prefer homemade foods.
18) Prioritize mental health
One of the most important things that you shouldn’t underestimate or put aside if you want to become “THAT GIRL”, is definitely your mental health.
Every person who wants to be a “THAT GIRL” cannot skip this fundamental point.
“THAT GIRLS” care about their emotional, psychological, and social well-being, which is why they spend time practicing activities that help them remove anxiety, and stress and seek peace within themselves.
Try to avoid all those situations, things, and people that can cause you a bad mood, and get away from what is toxic and not good for yourself.
Your mental health comes first and you need to try to prioritize that over everything else.
19) Practice positive self-talk
In the process of becoming a “THAT GIRL,” there will definitely be times when you think you can’t do it, times when you want to throw in the towel, or times when you get angry and think you’re not good enough to become the best version of yourself.
I want to tell you that it’s normal to have this reaction but that it’s not okay to get angry with yourself.
In fact, I want you to start practicing positive self-talk from now on.
Positive self-talk is a good way to motivate yourself, to love yourself more, to believe in yourself more, to push away any negative thoughts that hold you back and back on track, and to show compassion and understanding towards yourself.
You are a special person, and you deserve to be treated in a special way by yourself because even if you encounter difficulties, I’m sure you will be able to overcome them with positivity and belief in yourself.
20) Find an extra hour in your day
Every day, try to free up some of your time, at least 1 hour to devote to things that interest you.
This can be a time to enjoy yourself, relax, or indulge in something new.
The important thing is that you find a moment in your day to do things that are close to your heart.
Try to finish your things on time, get up a little earlier or take advantage of the afternoon snack and dedicate an hour to yourself.
This helps you not to fall into boredom, not to end up in burnout and to always stay motivated to face even difficult days.
21) Plan your day
For a good organization and to ensure that you are always productive, it is essential to plan your day.
Many think that having a plan for the day is useless, but the truth is that having a plan helps you understand what needs to be done and what your priorities are.
If you plan your day it’s easier to get things done faster and be motivated to work on your goals, as you have a vision of your day.
Moreover staying organized is one of the habits that all “THAT GIRLS” practice to crush their goals.
So if you want to become one of them, start planning your days and you’ll see how easier it will be to stay focused and avoid reaching the end of the day without doing anything.
22) Have fun and don’t be hard on yourself
Last but not least but unfortunately forgotten is to have fun in the process of becoming a “THAT GIRL”.
It’s useless to force yourself to do something reluctantly, or to do something that doesn’t fit into our lifestyle, but above all to try to change yourself with the force and obligation of having to do something.
Instead, if you have fun during this process, it will be easier for you to build new habits and eliminate bad ones, as well as find your balance and the person you want to become in the future.
Conclusion
This is all there is to know about how to become “THAT GIRL”.
First of all, you have to understand what being a “THAT GIRL” means to you and what to pay attention to if you want to become one.
Finally, there are a number of habits that all “THAT GIRL” constantly practice to lead a productive and healthy life.
And you, are you ready to become a “THAT GIRL” this year?
With love,
Alexa says
Hey! Thanks for writing this amazing post.
That Independent Girl says
Thank you for appreciating it! :)